My Valentine to You: Top 5 “Crazy Love” Songs of All Time

February 14th, 2011  |  by Veralyn Williams |  Published in Blog, My Two Cents  |  1 Comment

In this month’s vlog, “‘Like’ Before ‘Love’ and Other Valentine’s Day Lessons“, I ask how couples who think they’re in love know the feeling is real… because in my experience sometimes what you think is love is really just good ol’ infatuation. Now, don’t get me wrong, I think every relationship needs passion and a certain level of raw excitement, but sometimes that passion and excitement crosses the sanity line–and that’s when you get what in the vlog I call “crazy love”.

As I see it, “crazy love” is when love becomes nothing but a drug you’re trying to get clean from… or a bad habit that you’re trying to kick. And, like any addiction, you become dependent on that other person to your own detriment.

How do I know so much about this, you ask? Not all by experience, fortunately. A lot of my favorite songs give deep first-hand accounts of addicts fighting to get clean…

Here are my Top Five “Crazy Love” Songs:

1. Lauryn Hill – “Ex Factor”
Crazy Love Proof: “I keep letting you back in / As painful as this thing has been / I just can’t be with no one else / ‘Cause no one’s hurt me more than you / And no one ever will”

2. Angie Stone – I Wish I Didn’t Miss You
Crazy Love Proof: “I can’t eat, I can’t sleep anymore
 / Waiting for love to walk through the door
 / I wish I didn’t miss you anymore”

3. Bruno Mars – “Grenade”
Crazy Love Proof: “I would go through all this pain / Take a bullet straight through my brain, Yes, I would die for ya baby / But you won’t do the same”

4. Aretha Franklin – “I Never Loved A Man”
Crazy Love Proof: “You’re a no-good heartbreaker / You’re a liar and you’re a cheat / My friends keep telling me / That you ain’t no good / But oh, they don’t know / That I’d leave you if I could”

5. Luther Vandross – “Anyone Who Had A Heart”
Crazy Love Proof: “Anyone who had a heart / Would take me in her arms / And love me too / You, you couldn’t really have a heart / And hurt me / Like you’ve hurt me / And be so untrue / So what can I do”

What did I miss? Add your favorite “crazy love” songs in the comments!

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  1. Cobra says:

    August 27th, 2013at 6:52 pm(#)

    Love the way you lie. By Eminem ft Rihanna
    (I want)Crazy. By Hunter Hayes

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