I once again feel all over the place mentally… so I thought I’d do another “10 Facebook updates… unsent,” as the first one was also so much fun!
1. Nelson Mandela’s health has deteriorated and he is now in critical condition. I actually did just (finally) post about this, but I’ve been avoiding this story like the plague all day. That selfish part of me, wanted to ignore it all, hoping it means I’ll never hear that inevitable-devastating-news… But one of my FB friends reminded me: “The light he added and brought to this world can never be dimmed. He’s an example of love, commitment, and perseverance. Not sadness… celebrate his life and how much light it added to the world!”
So instead of being sad I will remember the first time I heard the name, Nelson Mandela. I was in the car with my parents as a child, and they were blasting the song, “Welcome Home Mr. Mandela”
“I’m not blaming the girl, but if you’re a 16-year-old and you’re drunk like that, your parents should teach you: Don’t take drinks from other people. She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky. Obviously, I don’t know, maybe she wasn’t a virgin, but she shouldn’t have put herself in that position, unless they slipped her something, then that’s different.”
Apparently this went down on Tuesday, and somehow I missed it. (I think God was trying to protect my heart from so much disappointment in someone I admire, for what she should stick to– being an amazing athletic.) But the beauty of finding out late was discovering Melissa Harris-Perry, in her “on-point-sort-of-way” had already addressed Serena directly:
“Imagine if you had demanded personal responsibility from the rapists. If you’d said, “I do not care if a girl is drunk at a party. You have no right to touch her without her consent. I don’t care if you are young and foolish, that is no excuse for rape.”
Those boys should have had parents who taught them better than to victimize the vulnerable. Where were their parents when they were out late at night assaulting a girl? Serena, does it matter to you if the rapists were virgins or sluts?”
Read/watch MPH’s full commentary: Serena Williams, it’s never good to blame a rape survivor
3. I’ve decided to start counting calories… This has always felt like such a stressful venture, but I came across this great blog, Black Girls Guide To Weight-loss, that has a “calorie counting” series that actually makes it look doable. I’ll keep you posted!
4. [Pre-counting-calories. lol] On Saturday I spent the day in Harlem with my African ladies, and for dinner we went to one of my favorite spots, African American Best Food, a Senegalese restaurant. This place is not fancy at all, but you go for the food and the price! I’ve never been disappointed.
5. I had the best conversation with a Haitian guy, on my way home, late Thursday night. I was at 14th Street waiting for a train expected to arrive in 20 mins, and this cute guy sits next to me. He asks me how long I’d been waiting, and we commiserated on how ridiculous the trains are. We then waited and rode the train into Brooklyn together, talking about everything from the newest NBA champions, to our favorite TV shows (his being, American Idol – lol), to the similarities between our native countries. He asked me for my card and gave me his. <– Good news. Bad news –> He waited to text me the following night at 1:38am, saying quote: “Hey happy sat r u up?……just got home and thought about you..” —> Um… really?!
Is it me or isn’t there a universal-social-contract that bans people from texting after hours when they’re a) not only interested in sex b) crazy c) a respectful-kinda-guy/gal…? Any-who, it was a great conversation into Brooklyn.
6. Missing my access to, OWN, may be my only incentive to get cable again. Tonight I missed two “must-see-TV” moments… “Oprah’s Next Chapter: African American Women in Hollywood,” featuring (L to R below) Viola Davis, Gabrielle Union, Phylicia Rashad and Alfre Woodard. And right after that they premiered “Dark Girls,” a documentary that explores the prejudices that dark-skinned women face throughout the world. –Anyone DVR these??
7. I visited a friend’s church today. She goes to one of those BIG mega churches, with a cafe, wifi, and 1000 different ministries… that in itself is impressive, but I was also blown away by today’s message. I won’t get too “scripture-ry” on you (as I am probably not the best person for that job), but the Pastor preached on Adam and Eve. And he spoke about how God gave Adam the job of “naming the animals,” knowing it wouldn’t satisfy him, but prepare him for something greater, a life with Eve. #Powerful! At this moment in my life I absolutely needed to hear that! Can’t wait for my “something greater.”
8. Bought some organic broccoli for $2.49/ea from Fresh direct. Had it for dinner and it tastes exactly like the the $1/ea broccoli I usually get from the Asian market by my house.
9. Speaking of produce… I’ve always kept my fruits and veggies in the bags I bring them home in, but one of my girls freaked me out over this, saying I should be keeping them in a bowl instead. Is this really the case? Haven’t found anything concrete online. (But I did switch to bowls just in case.)
10. Did you know I co-founded a non-profit? Yep! Telem Center for the African Child. And our biggest program, a 3-day sleep-away camp, is almost here!! So yes– thought VM readers should know about it! Check out this video profile, Media Therapy TV, did on us!